A Canadian baby has become the first in the world without gender designation on their health card. The transgender parent, who identifies as neither male nor female, said, “I’m raising them in such a way that until they have the sense of self and command of vocabulary to tell me who they are, I’m giving them all the love and support to be the most whole person that they can be outside of the restrictions that come with the boy box and the girl box. When I was born, doctors looked at my genitals and made assumptions about who I would be. Those assumptions were incorrect, and I ended up having to do a lot of adjustments since then.” Extreme, controversial, and awesome come to mind… Good on ‘them’ for blessing their baby with the gift of choice! Of course, the question is, can you really escape being shoved into a box at some point? Yes, I think so. You just need to be aware, and have a good support system behind you.
NLP for me is one such critical system. Often, people are unhappy because they are not living their own life. Took me almost 40 years to realise that it was the case for me too. I think it’s a good thing, because now I can use my own experience to highlight a different way. I am the proof from the pudding, if you will, that people can. And I have been following a path of Deconstruction. Constantly letting go of stuff; like beliefs, way of life, and people, because you know, that is just not me. So, ask yourself: who are you, really? Folks may answer that question by giving you their occupation, but that is not what I am talking about. Funny how quite often, too, they don’t really know. The easiest way to find out is to identify all the things in your life right now that are not you. That do not resonate with you, and feel difficult, or heavy. Let go of those. And then, ask yourself what gets you out of bed in the morning; what excites you the most? What you’ll end up with is the real you. And yes, you may have to dig a little to find out. Remember, that’s okay. All part of the fun of Reconnection.
Personally, I think that NLP and consciousness philosophy should be taught at school. What could be more important than to learn what it means to be human? Not just a ‘functioning member of society’, which in some cases may be slightly at odds, but a fulfilled, happy, loving human being? To understand our emotions? And figure out our purpose in life? There are people out there who make lots of money from turning all this stuff into a hardcore process that only a few select individuals are gifted enough to figure out for themselves. I say it isn’t difficult. All you have to do is ignore the background noise that intentionally makes it difficult for you to focus. It is subtle propaganda that breeds damaging conformity. You don’t need it. So, turn off your TV, and stop listening to other people; start reading books instead. Start tuning in. Use NLP, which is all about understanding ‘how’ you think, and how this in turns affects your results. When you understand how you create your reality, because you do, you can then become a more conscious creator. It does entail assuming 100% responsibility for everything you experience… And yes, that’s exciting. All part of the joy of Creation.
Learn to recognise those beliefs, values, and mindsets which you assume are yours but may not actually be. Have a clear-out. Don’t be fooled. You don’t have to swap genders, but let this be an indication of how far you could actually go if you wanted to. There is nothing stopping you from becoming the real, authentic You, and being in total alignment with your true core self. If you already are, and your life is great, perfect. Keep doing what you’re doing. If not, know that you can learn how to change. Like finding your purpose, initiating change in your own life is not this magic thing that is out of reach of most people.
There are only three things you need to do.
“You and I are the force for transformation in the world. We are the consciousness that will define the nature of the reality we are moving into.”— Ram Dass