Ready, Set, Go…
I have just missed an opportunity to take part in a Death Café tonight, forgot to book early. In case you think it’s a joke, or a seriously weird thing I am into, a total of 3,563 Death Cafés have taken place in 37 countries since September 2011. Death Café is a social franchise, and in the words of the event’s organiser, “It’s basically people drinking tea, eating cake, and talking about death in a structured setting, encouraging us all to make the most out of our lives.” Most people don’t talk about death very often, and there can be many reasons for that; one might be because we don’t really believe it’s going to happen to us in the first place! Yes, some people don’t, and so it’s not a problem for them. But often we deny something is an issue or an obstacle, when in fact it would help if we acknowledged it as such. Sometimes we’re not ready though, and that’s true as well.
One of the Prime Directives of the Unconscious Mind is that it represses memories with unresolved negative emotions; and it also presents those memories again from time to time, so that we can make sense of them, and release the emotions attached. This being said, again we have to be ready. Think of a three-week old baby; a three-week old baby has no desire to walk, because the body at this point is not ready, physically or neurologically. So the baby doesn’t even think about it. Once the body and the mind are ready though, it will occur to the child that maybe they could have a go. Once the desire is activated, babies are quick to take action. It’s the same for us: whatever crazy goal or so-called impossible dream is trotting around your head right now, you would not have the desire to make it happen if you were not somehow capable of it. Once you have the desire, all you need to understand is how you will make it happen. You can be successful, all you have to do is figure it out! The problem is that most people, unlike babies, give up on their goals at that point because they equal not knowing how with not possible – or even worse: not meant to be.
And so I used to have this belief that I could not make money from my writing. At first I dismissed it. Why on earth would I want to do that, you might ask? Well, simply because I was not ready yet to acknowledge that it was actually a limiting belief, a limiting decision, something that stood in my way. At the beginning of July this year, I got a bit of a lightbulb moment: I am, and have been for a while in fact, making money from it. Not enough to make a living yet, not consistently anyway, but so what? Now I understand that if I want to make more money from my books, I just have to write more books… Funny that, since that is what I most enjoy doing anyway! And even though it seems like the most obvious of obvious things to me now, it was not always; in fact it’s like a drinking glass with a cover on top. By design, a glass is meant to be filled. It wants to be filled! And yet if you cover it up you can pour as much water into it as you like, the bottom of that glass will never get wet. And it may well feel happy being dry too… but only because it is not aware. Our minds are like that too.
And so the moral of this story is three simple questions to ask yourself:
- Are you following your passion in life?
- If not, what stops you?
- Is that reason you come up with a limiting belief or decision?
Come on, be honest! Because if it is, great news: it means you are ready…
“Awareness is the birthplace of possibility; Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.” – Deepak Chopra, Albert Einstein.