An Exciting Adventure
I got a case of really nasty, horrible writer’s block over the Holidays, and I was furious about it! But then I remembered a couple of things… One: true writers, when they get stuck for inspiration, will write about that instead of feeling sorry for themselves – so here I am now writing about my block. And two: often in life when we encounter events and situations that knock us off course, we have a tendency to quickly label those experiences as roadblocks and problems; we think of them as negative, and we ask, “Why me??”
Author and peak performance coach Tony Robbins, (who uses a lot of NLP in his work), says that “Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” Asking someone ‘why’ is not such a good idea because a) it makes you sound aggressive and confrontational, and b) it more or less forces the other person to come up with an excuse. So the next time you are tempted to cry, “Why me?”, instead ask yourself what the purpose might be. What precious insight, powerful learning or unexpected blessing could there be, offered in the unwanted situation you’ve suddenly become entangled in?
Sometimes you won’t be able to figure it out until much later on… Grammy award-winning singer Patti Austin was due to perform on the second night of a Michael Jackson tribute concert in New York City back in September 2001. But her mother had a stroke, and therefore Patti was moved to performing on the first night of the concert so she could get back to her mum quicker; this meant she had to cancel her flight out of New York on the second day, and that she never boarded United Flight 93, which is one of the planes that never made it to its final destination on 9/11.
Obviously, hindsight is no good when you’re stuck deep inside a horrible situation. But the next best thing you can have is faith in yourself and belief that you can. For me, learning NLP provided the foundation for a very healthy and empowered outlook on life. I also have a belief that everything that happens to me is for a positive reason, even if I can’t see it just yet; and this in turn gives me the greatest gift of all: awareness. When people say, “Surely there has to be more to life than this!” whatever ‘this’ is, they’re right! There is more to it, but you can’t see it if you’re not paying attention.
Here’s an example: when I went to the first NLP conference organised by Inspire 360, I was so impressed by all the speakers that I immediately decided I wanted to speak at the next event. But in the weeks that followed I started to feel uncomfortable. Couldn’t really put my finger on it, but something was not right. Now, (again thanks to NLP), I was very much in touch with my Unconscious Mind, and I listened. There was confusion and frustration in those moments of changing my mind, sure… But when I searched for positive meaning in the experience, I had another look at what I’d planned to talk about, and that’s when it jumped out at me: it was a book outline. So I wrote a little book about my experience of NLP, learnings etc. Looking back on it now, I can see that it was absolutely the best thing I could have done at the time.
So, by learning to spot the signs in your roadblocks, you will enjoy a happier, more meaningful experience. And I can tell you from personal experience that, when you open yourself up to the idea that there is more to this world than meets the eye, life really does become an exciting adventure!
“The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and science.” – Albert Einstein