The Biggest Illusion of All
Steve Jobs said three words before he died. As he looked past the shoulders of his family, and into the distance, he simply murmured: “Oh wow. Oh wow. Oh wow.”
Many people before they die may start speaking in metaphors and symbols. Some have been reported to look and sound as if they are having conversations with previously deceased relatives. Sometimes (often seen in patients with brain tumours or Alzheimer’s disease), a person will suddenly and unexpectedly regain full mental clarity and memory just at the point of death. Dying people may also point toward something in the corner of an empty room, and describe beautiful scenery to their living relatives who may be present. And there is the case of a 22-year-old man, who, as he was dying of cancer, suddenly and mysteriously was heard muttering to himself, “I know, I know. We agreed on twenty-two years this time.”
Hey, are you scared of dying? Because if you are, then you shouldn’t have been born!
Seriously though, no one knows what happens after we die, but there is a growing body of evidence that suggests death as we define it simply does not exist. So, it would be kind of silly to be afraid of it. But if you want, you can use the idea of death to remind yourself of the important things in life. Steve Jobs used to say that, “Remembering you are going to die is the best way to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” Personally, if I had to rank 3 fears in my life right now that stop me from following my heart, it would go something like:
- Fear of not having enough money
- Fear of running out of money
- Fear of being without money
Makes sense, since I left my job 8 months ago, and haven’t really been earning since! Strangely enough, the two ideas of death and money became intertwined in a dream I had a while back, which may or may not be a metaphor, by the way… We all know there is no such thing as just a dream, right? In that experience, I was back in the town where I was born, in the beautiful harbour that lies just across the road from my parent’s house. I was onboard a ship. Always loved them. A gorgeous, old-style sailing boat with shiny wooden decks, and heavy, thick, spotless white sails. Would cost an arm and a leg to buy. It was one of those lucid dreams in which I was ultra-conscious of everything; every scent, sound, and colour was heightened. Everything in that dream felt better, brighter, and more real, including myself. I had never been happier, more relaxed, or grounded in my entire life; which was kind of weird, really, because I was dying. Go figure. It was a terminal disease of some kind or other. And so, in true flamboyant style, I had maxed out a bunch of credit cards, and got me that boat. I felt giddy with anticipation and excitement. I knew I would never, ever in a million years be able to pay it back. I was free of my number one fear. I was free. I guess even a terminal disease may be used as a permission slip…
So here I am today, alive and kicking, and feeling the fear. Lack of money, argh. Give me death any damn day! So, I did NLP to successfully get rid of this limiting belief. And also, decided to focus and believe in what I want: Abundance. Spiritual teachers always say the Universe is always there to support us… I love that idea. But there is a difference between believing (or even just wanting to), and knowing. For example, I know I can move my arm. I don’t need to do a bunch of affirmations every morning to convince myself of that fact. I just know. I want to know Abundance, too. Because when you know something, it becomes real. So, I am doing what I love, and focusing on what I want…
And here goes: 3 days ago, I filed my first ever tax return, and received a significant refund. Funny enough, it was just the amount I needed to find to become involved in something I have real passion for. 2 days ago, I found £10 in change at the supermarket self-checkout. And just yesterday, I found out how to get out of that annoying 30% tax rate that applies to my US royalties.
You could say it is just a coincidence. But know this: those don’t exist either.
“When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: ‘If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.’ It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.”- Steve Jobs.