Decision Time
My guess is that if you live in the UK you are well aware that in a couple of weeks or so we will have a new government. The choice that you make when you place your cross on your voting slip won’t be the biggest decision that you have ever made but it will accumulate with everyone else’s to bring change, for better or for worse, for richer or poorer. Even if your choice is to not vote, that too will have an effect.
We constantly make choices throughout our lives, some good, some bad, some important, some trivial. Sometimes we even make decisions when in reality we have no right to make those decisions. These can often be made when we have a significant emotional experience or when we are very young. What often happens from there is that we forget that we have made that decision at a conscious level, but unconsciously we act out our lives as if the decision we made is the reality in which we live. Even when the reality is that it is not. Continue Reading »
Re-wire Your Thinking
We are approaching the end of the first quarter for 2010. So how’s that working out for you? Are your New Years’ resolutions being stuck to? Are your goals on track? Wherever you are right now, and no matter how things are going, consider this - if you want to get more of what you want in life and less of what you don’t want then look inside yourself, that is where you will find what you seek.
Resting comfortably between your ears is the planets most sophisticated learning device. Millions of years of evolution has produced this vast neural network which operates by learning and in the process of so doing it re-wires itself, so that old patterns can be un-learned and new pathways laid down. When you know how, achieving your goals is like riding a bike. Continue Reading »
Be-Cause
Who is in control of how your life is working out? Who is responsible? Well I guess you don’t need me to tell you that is YOU. But do you exercise your free will freely or are you at the effect of others around you? It is very rare for an individual to always live his or her life at cause, where they accept full personal responsibility for everything that happens in their life. Nevertheless far too many of us live a large portion of our lives at effect – responding to the requests, outlooks, desires or emotional states of others.
By being at cause you allow yourself to be the decision maker therefore creating what you want in life and taking responsibility for what you have achieved or will achieve based upon your present actions. See the world as a place of opportunity and move towards what you desire, this is a great starting point and if things are not unfolding as you would like, take action and explore other possibilities, draw upon your available resources and above all, remind yourself that you have the choice in what you do and how you react to people and events. Continue Reading »
Reframing Provides A Whole New Perspective
Just as a picture frame puts borders or boundaries on what you can see in a picture, the frames of reference that you choose as a result of your beliefs about yourself and others, your perceived role in life, your perceived limitations in skills/abilities, etc. can limit what you see as possible or can open up all sorts of possibilities. You are continually setting timeframes, boundaries, limits, etc. on what you can and can’t do, often without any real thought about the consequences.
Changing the frame of an experience can have a major influence on how you perceive, understand and react to that experience. Imaging being sat at your desk and your boss tells you, you have one hour to complete a task. This request is more than likely going to result in a different emotional state, haphazard approach and quality of work than if you are told that you have one week to accomplish the same task. This example can illustrate how a change in frame (in this case a timeframe) can have a significant bearing on the choices you make. Changing the frame of reference is called reframing in NLP. Continue Reading »