Join The Club
One of the highlights of my NLP Master Practitioner training was when we did the board break exercise. I was so excited about it! I was going to crack that thing like Neo bends his spoon, no sweat! And yet, I did not manage to break the board on my first attempt. To say it politely, I was a tad annoyed with the result I got; I was fuming inside! So, I hit it again, twice, in quick succession. Still, it didn’t break. And it’s no wonder really, because I slammed it in exactly the same way I first had, not thinking that if it didn’t work the first time, it probably wouldn’t work the second or third either. I was just channelling my frustration into mindless action. What I needed to do in order to achieve my goal was to change my approach, of course, and my thinking, absolutely. I eventually figured out how to do it, and I sliced through that plank of wood like it was just air. In the process, I learnt how to empty my mind, how to get in the zone, and, crucially, how to do all this consciously. Cool learnings!
Now, we have just entered 2017. And so, resolutions, anyone? You may or may not know that only 8% of people achieve success with their new year’s resolutions each year. Are you one of them? If so, well done. If not, keep smiling! Because you can; you just have to know how. Albert Einstein, that guy with the crazy hair who writes quotes for Facebook, said that, “The very definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result.” Pretty much like I was doing with the board.
Another thing you may not know is that there really is no such thing as will power. Oh, you might rely on it for a few days, a few weeks even; but eventually, it is quite likely that all your best efforts will crumble, and you will be left outside the door of that exclusive, and elusive 8% fraternity house, scratching your head, and wondering how to get in. Maybe you’ll give up after a while, and shelve that resolution for the next year… On and on it goes like that, in a never-ending circle of disappointment. But there is hope. Because one of the things you can do with NLP is trend up your life a little; or a lot, as may be the case! And by that, I mean that you can start to bring in more of what you want, and less of what you don’t want. One of the side effects of learning NLP is that you will become a bit of an expert at this thing called ‘change’. Effecting positive transformation in your own life will become a sure thing, a done deal, instead of some hit and miss, ‘cross your fingers and hope your conscious will prevails’ enterprise.
So, what’s the secret, then? Well, it is quite simple, really. Because what is even more powerful than your mightiest conscious decision, and stronger than your sharpest desire to bend your will to your wishes, is your Unconscious Mind. You’ve all seen the pictures, right? The hidden tip of the iceberg is your Unconscious Mind. And whether you like or not, it really does run the show. Locked in there are a lifetime of beliefs, paradigms, values, attitudes, memories, and patterns which you are not consciously aware of, but actually make you who you are, including the actions that you take in the running of your day to day life. If you find it difficult to stick to your new year’s resolutions, it is probably because something at the unconscious level is out of alignment with what you want consciously. How do we solve the problem? Like I did with the board.
Using a variety of specific NLP techniques, we can change our thinking. We realise that instead of going at it like we have always done, we can include the Unconscious Mind in the changing process this time. We can identify any automatic blocks, to understand, integrate, and resolve the issue, so that you can proceed with the changes you want to make, easily, and confidently.
That’s all there is to it. That’s how you join the club. Welcome!
“Man’s task is to become conscious of the contents that press upward from the unconscious.” – Carl Jung